Your Idols- My Idols

Dear sister,

Idols…Oh, how I see the guilty bowing before their objects of worship. Marriage, smart kids, desire for marriage and smart kids. Stuff, Amazon, E-bay, malls. Jobs, prestige, advancement, power, bank accounts. Beauty, exercise, firm biceps, smoothies, health, supplements. Clean houses, order, minimalism, or one more object to display. All good things gone wrong. Then there are pride, desire to control, self-righteousness in all religiosity. I can spot these things in others a mile away. Or is it simply Projection 101? My sins imputed to others? I get so sick of myself.

And then there is God. So holy. So clean. So above us all in every way. Impeccable and perfect. A God of love, yet hating, despising our sin—those things we cling to, reluctant to unclench our grasping fingers from our objects of adoration—a thing, a person, an attitude, a thought, so often justifying ourselves with, “It’s not so bad-I mean, look at her.”

Scrutinize Ezekiel 14…It’s hard to justify ourselves when we look at our Father in heaven and begin to understand His hatred for idolatry and His refusal to allow His people to remain in their sin. Not only will He chasten His own, but those who come hypocritically to God’s people, to His ministers, seeking a relationship with God by rules of their own making, continuing their love of sin, will be judged. And there comes a point in time when God’s patience ends and no amount of intercessory prayer, even by truly righteous people like Noah, Daniel, or Job, will avert chastening or judgment for those in ongoing, unrepentant iniquities. Simply put, sin is serious. Very serious.

Paul tells us in Romans 6:12-13:

“Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions. Do not present your members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness, but present yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life, and your members to God as instruments of righteousness.” Do not…Do…Put off…Put on… By His grace.

Yes, it’s true our God remembers our frame, that we are dust. Yes, He is forgiving and filled with loving-kindness and tender mercies, but that does not diminish His hatred for our sin, our sin that nailed His Son, our Savior to the harsh, lonely, Father-forsaken cross. Too often we are cavalier about our wrongdoing. Too often we excuse ourselves or commit shallow repentance. Too often we gather well-meaning others around us who confirm us in wrong-doing, assuring us it’s not so bad, after-all, look at all the good you’re doing. This is deadly trade-off thinking, thinking which desensitizes us to the truth about ourselves or presuming upon His grace with a casual, “Oh, He’ll forgive me”, sometimes with a little comic-relief chuckle.

Let’s confess to God our love of idols, our distorted thinking. Let’s ask the Lord to show us more and more of His righteousness and beauty as we immerse ourselves in His Word and implore Him to make us more like Himself, hating sin, loving righteousness, submitting in glad obedience. And then, as we marvel at His glory, let’s repent again, more deeply, examining more profound layers of our inward beings. Let’s be honest. No white-washing. Let us thank Him for the blood of Christ poured over us, washing us clean.

And if you don’t know Him, if He is not the Savior and Master of your life, give Him your sin and yourself. Throw yourself on His undeserved mercy. Let Him take your sin and give you His righteousness. Come to Him in faith alone. You can never make yourself good enough. There is a lovely little hymn which states,

“Come, ye sinners, poor and needy,
Weak and wounded,
Sick and sore;
Jesus ready stands to save you,
Full of pity, love, and power.

Come, ye weary, heavy-laden,
Lost and ruined by the fall;
If you tarry till you’re better,
You will never come at all.”

So come as you are. Poor. Needy. Unable. He loves to forgive and save—and it is forever.
Love because of His deep love,
Cherry

Relational Idols

Dear sister,

I love people, sometimes too much. I’ll depend on them, be fulfilled by them, desire to please them, and need to feel loved by them, sometimes more than I need God. You see, I place people higher than God, and that’s not loving. That’s false worship.

I’m not saying it’s wrong to need people. We were created to be social beings (Gen. 2:18). It’s not good to remain in isolation and avoid accountability just because relationships are messy. People are a blessing and friendship is a gift from God. But we make something an idol when that blessing becomes more important in our hearts than God. As Calvin put it, “The heart is an idol factory.” Just like the “unrighteous men” in Romans 1, we end up worshiping the creation rather than the Creator. What a shame that we put our hope in the gift instead of where it came from.

We are to love others, but when we constantly have this desire to please people or need them for our sense of worth, that love becomes self-seeking and a form of self-worship.

In this life, people will let us down. No spouse is perfect, parents are human too, and even “best” friends aren’t always the best. That’s because THEY ARE NOT GOD! We should not expect people to be perfect; perfection is impossible this side of heaven. We wouldn’t want people to put unfair expectations on us, so we should not do the same to them. Nothing and no one will truly fulfill us like Christ, yet we still try to find fulfillment in others. Why is that?

I’ve never really struggled with peer pressure, but I do consider myself a people-pleaser. I used to see this as a good thing, like being a peace maker. Why would I want to displease people or make them upset? But I’ve since learned my faults and realize I just hate confrontation for selfish reasons. I don’t want to get hurt, and if I’m honest with myself, I care too much what people think. I want to be loved, but I often look to the wrong source for that love. That’s why we are to love God more than man.

“The fear of man lays a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is safe” (Proverbs 29:25)

I like the idea of “safe,” but we don’t just love God because it’s safer than being vulnerable with others. We are to love others because God first loved us (1 John 4:19). The only way we can love others is if we put people in their place and look to God alone for our satisfaction.

“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men” (Colossians 3:23).

People in this life will hurt us and we will probably hurt others, after all we aren’t perfect either. People can’t save us and we can’t be God for others, and that’s a good thing! Our humanness is supposed to point us to Christ! That’s why we first love God, then others. Once we have a proper view of God, self, and others, we can truly enjoy human relationship and fellowship. I’ve received the best encouragement from people I love and my close friendships have been a huge comfort to me over the years. Love others, but don’t make them an idol. Trust in God, not man.

Your sister in Christ,

Karlie