It Is Well With My Soul

sailing-bc-1450561Dear sister,

You may already be familiar with the story of the hymn It Is Well With My Soul.

Horatio Spafford’s two-year-old son died, and shortly thereafter the 1871 Great Chicago Fire ruined him financially (he was a successful lawyer and had invested in property in the area that was damaged by the fire). His business interests took another hit in the economic downturn in 1873, when he had planned to travel to Europe with his family. In a last-minute change of plan, he sent his family ahead while he remained behind to deal with zoning problems having to do with the fire. While crossing the Atlantic, their ship sank quickly after a collision with another vessel, and all four of their daughters died. Spafford’s wife Anna survived and sent him a telegram that simply said, “Saved alone.” Shortly afterward, as Spafford traveled to meet his grieving wife, he wrote these words as his ship passed near where his daughters had died.

When peace, like a river, attendeth my way,
When sorrows like sea billows roll;
Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say,
It is well, it is well with my soul.
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

Deeply moving words, to be sure. But I feel too often we stop there with this hymn. We share it with each other as encouragement to hang on, trust God, keep the faith, ‘learn in every situation to be content’ (Philippians 4:11). Without the Holy Spirit mourning with us, that is sometimes too much willpower to bear.

The next verse tells the source of our hope, Jesus:

Though Satan should buffet, though trials should come,
Let this blest assurance control,
That Christ hath regarded my helpless estate,
And hath shed His own blood for my soul.
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

And the next verse gives the gospel again, with a breathless aside about the glory of its truth:

My sin—oh, the bliss of this glorious thought!—
My sin, not in part but the whole,
Is nailed to the cross, and I bear it no more,
Praise the Lord, praise the Lord, O my soul!
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

Lord willing, I will turn 30 next month, and people keep asking me how I feel about it and whether I’m okay with it and assuring me how young that still is, as if I didn’t already know! Scripture is clear that aging is an honor, that grey hair is a crown; that getting older is something to be sought after. And every birthday—like every day we awaken with God’s mercies new every morning—brings us closer to Jesus’ return in glory, when there will be no more sorrow or crying, when the former things will pass away and God will wipe away all tears.

The final verse fixes our eyes heavenward, to Jesus’ return:

And Lord, haste the day when the faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.
It is well with my soul,
It is well, it is well with my soul.

Your sister,

Sarah

How Being Childless is Preparing Me for Motherhood

Dear sister,

There will always be something you’re waiting for. It could be something as inconsequential as being in line at the supermarket, or it could be bigger, like waiting for a check to post, or monumental like graduation, marriage, and motherhood. Whatever it is, that waiting time is there for a reason. But remember: it’s also just a season! (Yes, the rhyming helps me J) As I wait for the season of motherhood, I’m learning several lessons. Lessons that will carry me through other trying times in life. Can you relate?

Using truth to deal with emotions

You can ask my husband his opinion, but I’m thankful God has helped me grow in this area (even just a little?) I still have so far to go. Emotions always try to take the driver’s seat in my life. It takes an act of God some days to get my thoughts going in the right direction. Those sometimes helpful, but often pesky, emotions flood me with opportunities for temptation if I do not use them as indicators to my deeper heart issues. Stopping and evaluating what I’m feeling in the moment, asking for feedback (sometimes scary) and also taking it to the Lord, is so helpful to me. Then I must submit the feeling to the truth revealed in Scripture. Are anger, sorrow, loneliness, fear, etc. always ‘wrong’? Well, if indulged over trust in the Lord, yes, however, on many occasions God acknowledges and accepts our feeble emotions and then shows us how to deal with them. (Eph. 4:26, Psalm 34:4, John 14:1, 1 Peter 5:7) It is exciting to see God changing me as I surrender my thought life to Him! How often I have heard my girlfriends admit their feelings of being overwhelmed by the ups and downs of motherhood, and so I thank God that He is divinely helping me to learn how to better handle my emotions now.

Honoring and cherishing my husband

Two years ago, I made a promise to my husband before God and many witnesses that I would love, cherish, honor… that dear man with which I share four walls, many meals, memories, joys, sorrows… life. Let me tell you, it was much easier to speak the promise, than it’s been to daily keep the promise! We’re sinners. Should I be surprised? Taking the extra effort every day to make my hubby feel like a king in his home is hard, but it’s also my joy. I’ve learned his habits, his preferences, his weaknesses and strengths, and in many ways I can cater to what helps and brings him joy. Doing this with creativity is an extra challenge, but also quite fun! I can only imagine how caring for little ones saps the energy to be creative, rested, willing… to serve my man. So I’m taking the time now to make those things a habit. Dear sister, after your Jesus, your husband must always come before the kiddos!

Putting my ultimate hope in Christ for satisfaction

None of this will matter…. at all…. if you’re not finding your hope and joy in Christ first and foremost. I’ve had to learn this through trying times, when nothing else made sense. It is comforting, in a strange way, to know that everything could fall apart in my life (again) and I’d still be able to stand firm on the Solid Rock, knowing that my inheritance in Christ, in heaven, has not been shaken (1 Peter 1:4). Without this bedrock to our daily comings and goings, whether married, single, mothering or not, we are walking on shifting sand and ultimately all our good deeds will be burned up (1 Cor. 3: 11-15). Many days this goal to keep my eyes fixed on eternity seems like impossibility, but confessing my weakness, and crying out to God, I always find that He will fix my heart and soul on Him. What a gift my mother gave to me, as I watched her live life this way. Today and in the future, I hope to give that gift to as many little ones God brings my way, whether in my church, my home, or my classroom.

Remember—there’s a reason—but it’s only a season!

Ruth